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We believe you. We are here for you.

You have the right to feel safe at home and in your relationship. If something doesn’t feel right – even if you don’t want to call it domestic abuse – there are people in Shetland who can help you.

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Who are Shetland Women's Aid?

We are the lead organisation working towards the prevention of domestic abuse in Shetland.

We provide advice, counselling, practical support, and emotional support to women, young people, and children affected by domestic abuse in our community.

We also deliver specialist prevention education and training across Shetland, helping to raise awareness of domestic abuse and build a safer future for everyone.

What counts as "Domestic Abuse"?

Domestic abuse is not always obvious. It often involves coercive control — a pattern of behaviours used to harm, frighten, isolate, or control another person over time. Abuse may include:

Behaviour designed to frighten, isolate, manipulate, or undermine someone over time.

Examples may include:

– Constant criticism or humiliation
– Gaslighting or mind games
– Threats or intimidation
– Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
– Isolating someone from friends or family

Any use of physical force, violence, or intimidation against another person.

Examples may include:

– Hitting, slapping, or pushing
– Strangulation or choking
– Throwing objects
– Restraining someone
– Damaging property

Any unwanted sexual behaviour, pressure, coercion, or violence.

Examples may include:

– Pressuring someone into sexual activity
– Rape or sexual assault
– Ignoring boundaries or consent
– Sharing intimate images without consent
– Controlling reproductive choices

Using money, work, or access to resources to control another person.

Examples may include:

– Controlling access to money
– Preventing someone from working
– Monitoring spending
– Building debt in someone’s name
– Hiding important financial documents

Using technology or online spaces to monitor, harass, or control someone.

Examples may include:

– Demanding passwords
– Monitoring messages or social media
– Tracking someone’s location
– Sending repeated unwanted messages
– Sharing private information online

Repeated behaviour that causes fear, distress, or makes someone feel unsafe.

Examples may include:

– Following or monitoring someone
– Repeated unwanted contact
– Showing up unexpectedly
– Watching someone’s home or workplace
– Creating fake accounts to contact them

Domestic abuse rarely fits neatly into one category. Many people experience several forms of abuse at the same time, often as part of a wider pattern of coercion and control.

How can Shetland Women's Aid help?

We provide counselling and support to women and children who have experienced domestic abuse.

We offer temporary and safe accommodation for women and their families at our refuge, away from their abusive situation

 

We are a confidential service. Your information and story will not be shared with anyone outside Shetland Women’s Aid.